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Chapter 1.The Muslim and His Rabb
The Believing Man is Alert in faith and awareness in
fearing Allah
He is Obedient to the commands of his Rabb
He is a true slave of Allah
He Worships Allah
He regularly performs the duties and good deeds required by
Islam
He accepts the will and decree of Allah
He Regularly Prays Five Times a Day
He Attends the Jama‘ah (Congregational) Prayer
He Attends ‘Eid Prayers
He Prays Sunnah and Nafil Prayers
He Performs His Prayers Properly
He Pays Zakah on His Wealth
He Fasts During the Day and Prays at Night in Ramadhan
He Observes Nafil Fasts
He Goes on Hajj to the Sacred House of Allah
He Goes for ‘Umrah
He has a sense of responsibility for those under his
authority
He Feels a Sense of Responsibility for the Members of His
Family
He Does Not Sit Alone With a “Stranger Woman”
He lowers his gaze
He Avoids Mixing Freely With Women
He Does Not Shake Hands With a Non-Mahram Woman
He Does Not Travel With Non-Mahram
He Turns to Allah in Repentance
His Main Concern is the Pleasure of Allah
He Understands the True Meaning of Being a Servant of Allah
He Works to Support the Religion of Allah
He is Distinguished by His Islamic Character and True Religion
His Loyalty is to Allah Alone
He Enjoins What is Good and Forbids What is Evil
He Often Reads the Qur’an
Chapter 2: The Muslim Man and His Own Self
1-His Body
Moderation in food and drink
He exercises regularly
His body and clothes are clean
He Takes Care of his Mouth and Teeth
He Takes Care of His Hair
He Takes Care of Good Appearance
He Does Not Go to Extremes or show off
2- His Mind
He Takes Care of His Mind by Pursuing Knowledge until death as knowledge is
an obligation
A Muslim Man needs to know basics regarding deen is
Quran,Hadith,Seerah,Islamic History,Fiqh
A Muslim Achieves wisdom in the Field of Knowledge In
General as long as Shariah approves such knowledge.
The Muslim Man should be proficient in his specialty
The Muslim Man exposes himself to information about other fields
The Muslim Man is proficient in a foreign language
He is not Superstitious
He Never Stops Reading and Studying
3-The Muslim Man’s Soul
The Muslim Man polishes his soul through worship
He keeps company with righteous people and joins religious gatherings
He frequently repeats du‘as and supplications described in Quran &
Ahadith
Chapter 3: The Muslim and His Parents
He Treats them with kindness and respect (birr)
He recognizes their status and knows his duties towards them
He is kind and respectful towards them even if they are not Muslims
He is extremely reluctant to disobey them
His mother comes first, then his father
He treats his parents’ friends well
He shows his kindness and humility towards his parents by not using words of
contempt nor repelling them
Chapter 4: The Muslim and His Wife
He Knows Importance of Marriage in Islam
He follows the guidance of Islam in his married life
He Chooses a Good Wife
He commands her with due consideration and gives her Respect
He Treats Her Family with Kindness and Respect
He understands his wife and respects her feelings
He helps her to make up for her failings and weaknesses
He knows how to strike a balance between pleasing his wife and treating his
mother with due kindness and respect
He Endears Himself to his Wife and is Keen to Please Her
He Does not Disclose Her Secrets
He Stands by Her and Offers Her Advice
He Encourages Her to Spend and Give Charity for the Sake of Allah
He Helps Her to Obey Allah (subhanawatala.)
He Fills Her Heart with Joy
He Makes Himself handsome for her
He is Cheerful and Grateful when he Meets her
He Shares Her Joys and Sorrows
He Does not Look at Other Women
He Does not Describe Other Men to Her
He Tries to Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquility for Her
He is Tolerant and Forgiving
He is Strong in Character and Wise
He is One of the Most Successful Husband
He does not divorces without a valid reason
Chapter 5: The Muslim and His Children
He understands his great responsibility towards his children and Teaches them
Islam
He uses the best methods in bringing them up such as Commanding,loving ,Compassionate,Understaning
their psychology , Attitude and also Correcting and Guiding them.
He demonstrates His Love and Affection for Them
He spends on them, willingly and generously
He does not discriminate between sons and daughters in his affection and
spending
He Does not Pray Against his Children
He is alert to everything that may have an influence on them
He equally treats all his children
He instills good behavior and Attitudes in them
Chapter 6: The Muslim and His Sons and Daughters-in-Law
A – His Daughter-in-Law has Islamic values,high character and His Attitude
Towards his Daughter-in-Law is that He treats her as his own daughter,as a
family member,
He Knows how to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Daughter-in-Law commitment
to Islam, and to be of a good and balanced character
He Knows His Place and treats his daughter-in-law properly and fairly in all
circumstances and at all times,matters may run their natural, peaceful
course unaffected by misguided whims and desires and governed instead by
religion, reason and wisdom
He Gives Advice but Does not Interfere in Their Private Life
He Respects Her and Treats Her Well
He is Wise and Fair in his Judgement of his Daughter- in-Law
B – His Son-in-Law
His Attitude Towards his Son-in-Law
He Knows How to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Son-in-Law religious
commitment and character you are pleased
He Respects and Honours Him
He Helps his Daughter to be a Good Wife to her Husband
He is Fair, and is Never Biased in Favor of His Daughter
He Deals with Problems Wisely
Chapter 7: The Muslim Man and His Relatives (Arham)
He knows Islamic view of kinship ties
The Muslim Man upholds the ties of kinship according to the teachings of
Islam
He maintains the ties of kinship even if his relatives are not Muslim
He fully understands the meaning of upholding the ties of kinship
He maintains the ties of kinship even if his relatives fail to do so
Chapter 8: The Muslim and His Neighbors
The Muslim Man is Kind and Friendly Towards His neighbors
He is the best of people in his dealings with his neighbors
He Adhers the Islamic teachings concerning good treatment of neighbors
The true Muslim Man is tolerant towards his neighbor
He likes for his neighbor what he likes for himself
He Knows Misery that befalls humanity because of the lack of true Islamic
morals and manners
The Muslim Man treats his neighbor in the best way he can
His generosity is directed towards both Muslim and non-Muslim neighbors
He starts with the neighbor whose home is closest to his own
The true Muslim Man is the best neighbor
He Knows bad neighbor is a person who is deprived of the blessing of faith
He Knows bad neighbor is a person whose good deeds are not accepted
He Knows a true Muslim is careful to avoid falling into sin where his
neighbor is concerned
His good treatment of his neighbor is not lacking and is Enough.
He puts up with his neighbor’s mistakes and bad treatment
He does not give tit-for-tat
He knows his neighbor’s rights over him
Chapter 9: The Muslim Man and His Friends and Brothers in Islam
He loves His Friends and Brothers for the sake of Allah
He Knows the great status of two who love one another for the sake of Allah
He Knows he effect of love for the sake of Allah on the life of the Muslims
is essential for unity
He does Not Forsake or Abandon His Brother
He is tolerant and forgiving towards them
He meets them with a smiling face
He is sincere towards them
He has a natural inclination towards kindness and faithfulness
He is kind to his brothers
He does not Gossip About Them
He Avoids Arguing with them, Making Hurtful Jokes and Breaking Promises
He is Generous and Honours His Brothers and prefers over himself
He prays for his Brothers in Their Absence
Chapter 10: The Muslim Man and His Community/Society
He Has a Good Attitude Towards Others and Treats Them Well
He is truthful & avoids giving false statements
He is Concerned About the Affairs of the Muslims
He Strives to Reconcile Between Muslim Men
He Repays Favours and is Grateful for Them
He does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back
He is not envious
He is sincere & gives sincere advice
He keeps his promises
He has a good attitude towards others and treats them well
He is characterized by shyness (Haya’)
He is gentle towards people
He is compassionate and merciful
He is tolerant ,forgiving and generous
He is easy-going in his business dealings
He is of cheerful countenance
He has a sense of humor
He is patient
He avoids cursing and foul language
He does not falsely accuse anyone of fisq or kufr
He is modest and discreet
He does not interfere in that which does not concern him
He refrains from backbiting and slandering the Honour of Others and Seeking
Out Their Faults
He avoids giving false statements
He avoids suspicion
He keeps secrets
He does not converse privately with another person when there is a third
person present
He is not arrogant or proud
He is humble and modest
He does not make fun of anyone
He respects elders and distinguished people
He mixes with people of noble character
He strives for people’s benefit and seeks to protect them from harm
He strives to reconcile between Muslims
He calls people to the truth
He enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil
He is wise and eloquent in his da‘wah
He is not a hypocrite
He does not show off or boast
He is Moderate with Regard to Her Clothing and Appearance
He is straightforward and consistent in his adherence to the truth
He repays favors and is grateful for them
He mixes with people and puts up with their insults
He tries to make people happy
He guides others to righteous deeds
He is easy on people, not hard and Does Not Bear Grudges
He is fair in his judgment of people
He does not oppress or mistreat others
He loves noble things and always aims high
His speech is not exaggerated or affected
He does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others
He is generous
He does not remind the beneficiaries of his charity
He is hospitable
He prefers others to himself
He helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
He is proud and does not beg
He is friendly and likeable
He checks his customs and habits against Islamic standards
He follows Islamic manners in the way he eats and drinks
He greets with Islamic greeting i.e salam
He does not enter a house other than his own without permission
He does not look into other people’s houses
He sits wherever he finds room in a gathering
He avoids yawning in a gathering as much as he can
He follows the Islamic etiquette when he sneezes
He does not imitate women
He Does Not Seek the Divorce of Another Man so that he May Take His Place
He visits the sick
He attends funerals
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Chapter 1: The Muslim Woman and Her Rabb
The Believing Woman is Alert in faith and awareness in fearing Allah
She is Obedient to the commands of her Rabb
She is a true slave of Allah
She Worships Allah
She regularly performs the duties and good deeds required
by Islam
She Accepts the Will and Decree of Allah
She Regularly Prays Five Times a Day
She May Attend the Jama‘ah (Congregational) Prayer
She Attends ‘Eid Prayers
She Prays Sunnah and Nafil Prayers
She Performs Her Prayers Properly
She Pays Zakah on Her Wealth
She Fasts During the Day and Prays at Night in Ramadhan
She Observes Nafil Fasts
She Goes on Hajj to the Sacred House of Allah
She Goes for ‘Umrah
She obeys those who are in authority over her
She Feels a Sense of Responsibility for the Members of Her
Family
She Does Not Sit Alone With a “Stranger”
She Wears Correct Hijab
She Avoids Mixing Freely With Men
She Does Not Shake Hands With a Non-Mahram Man
She Does Not Travel Except With a Mahram
She Turns to Allah in Repentance
Her Main Concern is the Pleasure of
Allah
She Understands the True Meaning of Being a Servant of Allah
She Works to Support the Religion of Allah
She is Distinguished by Her Islamic Character and True Religion
Her Loyalty is to Allah Alone
She Enjoins What is Good and Forbids What is Evil
She Often Reads the Qur’an
Chapter 2: The Muslim Woman and Her Own Self
1 – Her Body
Moderation in Food and Drink
She Exercises Regularly
Her Body and Clothes are Clean
She Takes Care of her Mouth and Teeth
She Takes Care of Her Hair
She Takes Care of Good Appearance
She Does Not Go to Extremes of Beautification or Make a Wanton Display of
Herself
2 – Her Mind
She Takes Care of Her Mind by Pursuing Knowledge until death as knowledge is
an obligation
A Muslim Woman Needs to Know basics regarding deen is
Quran,Hadith,Seerah,Islamic History,Fiqh
A Muslim Women’s Achieves wisdom in the Field of Knowledge In General as long
as Shariah approves such knowledge.
She is not Superstitious
She Never Stops Reading and Studying
3 – A Muslim Woman's Soul
The Muslim Woman polishes her soul through worship
She Keeps Company with Righteous People and Joins Religious gatherings
She Frequently Repeats Du‘as and Supplications Described in Quran &
Ahadith
Chapter 3: The Muslim Woman and Her Parents
She Treats Them with Kindness and Respect (Birr)
She Recognizes Their Status and Knows Her Duties Towards Them
She is Kind and Respectful Towards Her Parents Even If They are not Muslims
She is Extremely Reluctant to Disobey Them
Her Mother Comes First, Then Her Father
She treats her parents’ friends well
She shows her kindness and humility towards her parents by
not
using words of contempt nor repelling them
Chapter 4: The Muslim Woman and Her Husband
She knows importance of Marriage in Islam
She follows the guidance of Islam in her married life
She Chooses a Good Husband
She is Obedient to Her Husband and Shows Him Respect
She Treats His Mother and Family with Kindness and Respect
She understands her Husband and respects his feelings
She helps him to make up for his failings and weaknesses
She knows how to strike a balance between pleasing her
husband and treating her In-laws with due kindness and respect
She Endears Herself to her Husband and is Keen to Please Him
She Does not Disclose His Secrets
She Stands by Him and Offers Him Advice
She Encourages Him to Spend and Give Charity for the Sake of Allah
She Helps Him to Obey Allah (subhanawatala)
She Fills His Heart with Joy
She Makes Herself Beautiful for Him
She is Cheerful and Grateful when She Meets Him
She Shares His Joys and Sorrows
She Does not Look at Other Men
She Does not Describe Other Women to Him
She Tries to Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquility for Him
She is Tolerant and Forgiving
She is Strong in Character and Wise
She is One of the Most Successful Wives
She does not divorces without a valid reason
Chapter 5: The Muslim Woman and Her Children
She Understands the Great Responsibility that She Has Towards Her Children
and Teaches them Islam
She Uses the Best Methods in Bringing Them up such as love
,compassion,understaning their psychology , attitude and also correcting and
guiding them.
She Demonstrates Her Love and Affection for Them
She treats her sons and daughters equally
She Does not Discriminate Between Sons and Daughters in Her Affection and
Care
She Does not Pray Against her Children
She is Alert to Everything that May Have an Influence on Them
She equally treats all her children
She Instils Good behavior and Attitudes in Them
Chapter 6: The Muslim Woman and Her Sons and Daughters-in-Law
A – Her Daughter-in-Law has Islamic values,high character .and Her Attitude
Towards her Daughter-in-Law,she treats her as her own daughter,as a family
member.
She Knows how to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Daughter-in-Law commitment
to Islam, and to be of a good and balanced character
She Knows Her Place treats her daughter-in-law properly and fairly in all
circumstances and at all times,matters may run their natural, peaceful course
unaffected by misguided whims and desires and governed instead by religion,
reason and wisdom
She Gives Advice but Does not Interfere in Their Private Life
She Respects Her and Treats Her Well
She is Wise and Fair in her Judgement of her Daughter- in-Law
B – Her Son-in-Law
Her Attitude Towards her Son-in-Law
She Knows How to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Son-in-Law religious
commitment and character you are pleased
She Respects and Honours Him
She Helps her Daughter to be a Good Wife to her Husband
She is Fair, and is Never Biased in Favor of Her Daughter
She Deals with Problems Wisely
Chapter 7: The Muslim Woman and Her Relatives
She knows Islamic View of Kinship Ties
The Muslim Woman Upholds the Ties of Kinship According to the Teachings of
Islam
She Maintains the Ties of Kinship Even if Her Relatives are not Muslims
She Fully Understands the Meaning of Upholding the Ties of Kinship
She Maintains the Ties of Kinship Even if Her Relatives Fail to Do So
Chapter 8: The Muslim Woman and Her neighbors
The Muslim Woman is Kind and Friendly Towards Her neighbors
She is the best of people in his dealings with his
neighbors
She Adheres to the Islamic Teachings Regarding Good
Treatment of neighbors
The true Muslima is tolerant towards her neighbor
She Likes for Her neighbors What She Likes for Herself
She Knows Misery that befalls humanity because of the lack
of true Islamic morals and manners
She Treats Her neighbor in the Best Way that She Can
Her generosity is directed towards both Muslim and non-Muslim neighbors
She Starts with the neighbor Whose Home is Closer to Her Own
The True Muslim Woman is the Best neighbor
She knows Bad neighbor is a Person Who is Deprived of the Blessing of Faith
She Knows Bad neighbor is a Person Whose Good Deeds are Not Accepted
She Knows a true Muslim is careful to avoid falling into
sin where his neighbor is concerned
Her Good Treatment of Her neighbor is not lacking and is Enough
She Puts up with Her neighbor’s Mistakes and Bad Treatment
She does not give tit-for-tat
She knows his neighbor’s rights over him
Chapter 9: The Muslim Woman and Her Friends and Sisters in Islam
She Loves Her Friends and Sisters for the Sake of Allah
He Knows the great Status of Two Who Love One Another for the Sake of Allah
She Knows the Effect of Love for the Sake of Allah on the life of the Muslims
is essential for unity
She Does Not Forsake or Abandon Her Sister
She is Tolerant and Forgiving
She Meets Them with a Smiling Face
She is Sincere Towards Them
She has a natural inclination towards kindness and faithfulness
She is Kind to her sisters
She Does not Gossip About Them
She Avoids Arguing with Them, Making Hurtful Jokes and Breaking Promises
She is Generous and Honours Her Sisters and prefers over herself
She Prays for Her Sisters in Their Absence
Chapter 10: The Muslim Woman and Her Community/ Society
She Has a Good Attitude Towards Others and Treats Them Well
She is truthful & avoids giving false statements
She is Concerned About the Affairs of the Muslims
She chooses works that suits her Feminine nature
She Strives to Reconcile Between Muslim Women
She Repays Favours and is Grateful for Them
She does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back
She is not envious
She is sincere & gives sincere advice
She keeps her promises
She has a good attitude towards others and treats them well
She is characterized by shyness (Haya’)
She is gentle towards people
She is compassionate and merciful
She is tolerant ,forgiving and generous
She is easy-going in his business dealings
She is of cheerful countenance
She has a sense of humor
She is patient
She avoids cursing and foul language
She does not falsely accuse anyone of fisq or kufr
She is modest and discreet
She does not interfere in that which does not concern her
She refrains from backbiting and slandering the
Honour of
Others and Seeking Out Their Faults
She avoids giving false statements
She avoids suspicion
She keeps secrets
She does not converse privately with another person when there is a third
person present
She is not arrogant or proud
She is humble and modest
She does not make fun of anyone
She respects elders and distinguished people
She mixes with people of noble character
She strives for people’s benefit and seeks to protect them from harm
She strives to reconcile between Muslims
She calls people to the truth
She enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil
She is wise and eloquent in his da‘wah
She is not a hypocrite
She does not show off or boast
She is Moderate with Regard to Her Clothing and Appearance
She is straightforward and consistent in her adherence to the truth
She repays favors and is grateful for them
She mixes with people and puts up with their insults
She tries to make people happy
She guides others to righteous deeds
She is easy on people, not hard and Does Not Bear Grudges
She is fair in his judgment of people
She does not oppress or mistreat others
She loves noble things and always aims high
Her speech is not exaggerated or affected
She does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others
She is generous
She does not remind the beneficiaries of his charity
She is hospitable
She prefers others to herself
She helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
She is proud and does not beg
She is friendly and likeable
She checks her customs and habits against Islamic standards
She follows Islamic manners in the way she eats and drinks
She greets with Islamic greeting i.e salam
She does not enter a house other than her own without permission
She does not look into other people’s houses
She sits wherever she finds room in a gathering
She avoids yawning in a gathering as much as she can
She follows the Islamic etiquette when she sneezes
She does not imitate Men
She Does Not Seek the Divorce of Another Woman so that She
May Taker Her Place
She visits the sick
She does not wails over dead.
She Does not attends funerals
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